Rules for dating me
This becomes diagnostic of how invested he is in you. If he is putting so little effort into your dating relationship, what will happen once he gets comfortable? If he asks you to come to him and has no game plan, he is just looking to hook up. He will not respect you if you give it up too soon. This, however, is not to say that they like a tease.
I myself was a victim of this until I recognized my part in this process and then I began dating and eventually married a man who treats me the way I deserve. Let go of the self defeating thoughts holding you back.
An example of a red flag would be if you found yourself on a date with someone who could not stop talking about their ex.
They may be a fantastic person, and eventually make a great partner, but right now they’re not ready.
Maybe they’re attentive and chivalrous to you, but treat the waiter, bartender, and/or valet poorly.
Or maybe they claim they’re ready for a long-term relationship, but their wandering eye tells you otherwise.